Thursday, October 4, 2012

my introvert self.

i always assumed i was an extrovert
because i can be very social
especially when i wasn't married, i had this craving
to be doing something social ALL the time.
i love sitting and talking with people more than anything.
i always thought introverts were shy and hated social interactions
so obviously pushed myself out of that category.
well i found these myths about introverts.
and i realized i was one of these people contributing to the 
belief of these myths.

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get introverts talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days. 
oh man, sometimes you can't get me to shut up and i can talk to people for hours, but i HATE small talk. I actually just talked about this in this recent post.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy. Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
yes. this is so true, i cannot even tell you how true it is. 
its like....way true.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude. Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting. 
oh yes, i am blunt. and i tell you how i feel. i see no reason to hide what you are feeling. jeffrey sometimes gets embarrassed. but i feel no pressure to fit in. i am myself regardless...

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people. On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
making and maintaining solid relationships are in the top ranks of my life's priorities. i care maybe too much about relationships. and yes, i get along better with people with substance :)

Myth #5 – Introverts always want to be alone. Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time. 
i am always thinking, but i usually HATE being alone. and yes...authentic one on one connections are my favorite :) if someone doesn't want to listen to me, i am very sad and lonely. its like these myth people are reading into my soul.

Myth #6 – Introverts are weird. Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
you know how some people are social chameleons? well i am the exact opposite. i actually sometimes go out of my way to not follow the crowd. {refuse to wear colored jeans even though i think they are way cute} i just feel like every time you follow the crowd, you are selling a precious part of your individuality. thats a whole post in and of itself for another day.

Myth #7 – Introverts are aloof nerds. Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them; it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
yes, I'm often in la la land :) 

Myth #8 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts. A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. 
gee thanks for applauding my contribution...

ok so i posted this because i didn't know i was an introvert.
until right now. 
i definitely am, and these little myth people
or introvert studiers described me to a T.

sometimes i feel like i come off as unfriendly because
i don't always talk to everyone around me-
even if we are kinda friends.
i just don't like talking to people
unless there is a reason to.
i think it is that i like people too much
and care too much about having a real connection with people,
so i don't want to soil it with a generic, unrevealing, and pointless conversation.
i also get really annoyed when i say "how are you"
and they smile and say good.
most people in this world treat that phrase like a greeting rather than a question.
and some people really don't care how you are doing when they ask.
but i do.
and i mean it as a sincere question.

and you know what?
props for reading impressed
that was  a LOAD.


  1. Thanks for the props. I was always confused if I'm an introvert because I love keeping things to myself especially my life milestones but I love talking so I thought I was in between LOL Now I know I'm definitely an introvert. :)


  2. I just read this a couple weeks ago when a friend sent it to me. I felt like it described me exactly :) I thought this was really interesting to watch too:
    Anyways. Good post. I really liked it :)

  3. After reading this, it has me on the fence about myself. I think I might be an introvert. I found you on The Pleated Poppy's WIWW and I am loving your blog. I am now your newest follower. I can't wait to see what you come up with next!


  4. you're not an introvert, but nice try.



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